Crying lots? Can’t concentrate on your work? Don’t want to go out? Irritable with others or yourself? Hate yourself right now? Can’t tell anyone how you feel? Feeling trapped or silly about this? Feel you need professional support? Counselling can help alleviate depression. Take action sooner than later.

Coping with Depression

Benefits of Coming to Counselling for Depression

There can be many reasons why people come to Counselling for Depression.  For example, you may have been given a diagnosis of depression by your doctor and want to take action to support yourself. Likewise, you prefer not to wait for the medication to start working. Perhaps you may have been referred to NHS counselling by your doctor but do not want to wait on the waiting list. The discomfort of your low mood may be too much for you and you need some hope. Suicidal ideas are frightening and you would like to discuss it in private with someone who will understand and not judge you. Concern that your partner has had enough of your behaviour.  People often want to change their mood but don’t know how.  These are all reasons why you might be considering private counselling or therapy for depression.

De-medicalising Depression

There are various types of depression and diagnoses.  I am more interested in the struggle you are experiencing and what that means for you.  Maybe we can call this “depression” or a present response to life? For example, there may be things left unresolved in your life. In addition, unfinished grieving a loss can produce these negative feelings.   Does the diagnosis give you a sense of relief?  Or a feeling of shame? Receiving counselling together with being on medication is experienced by many, to be effective in managing depression. There are those who decide to manage their depression with therapy alone.  Usually this is because they do not want to ‘put chemicals in their body’.

The Process of Therapy

Importantly, clients need to be able to sit for between 30 to 55 minutes with their counsellor.  To be successful Counselling for Depression needs regular attendance.  You do not have to say much, but if you can talk a little about what’s going on for you then that helps. Most importantly, I will not attempt to administer a cure.  The process of our conversation helps you to help yourself.  It is therapeutic in itself. During sessions you should feel accepted and understood. You should leave feeling supported.

An Example of How I Work

I tend to be “consciously selective, reflecting and even amplifying the emotionally poignant aspects of [your] narrative, to aid [your] own awareness. Sometimes this might mean drawing attention to some pain that [you] skip over, or avoid, but which [my] empathic attunement tells [me] is important. It might be just noticing the hurt, for instance saying, ‘It seemed to me there was just a hesitation there as you mentioned your brother. I wonder if it’s something that’s a bit hard to talk about?’ [You] then are free to take up the offer of focusing on the emotion, or the avoidance, or to continue with the narrative.”

CfD in Bacp-journals/HCPJ/Oct2017

Recovery in Sight

Initially you will obviously be feeling very low. Gradually throughout the process your mood should lift. Unhelpful emotions change to helpful emotions. Some people respond quite quickly and begin to look forward to sessions. Likewise, if you have a good working relationship with your counsellor then it’s easier to trust the process.  However, it may not always a straight road to recovery. Sometimes there are setbacks – three steps forward, two steps back.

If you think that counselling for depression may help you, please enquire by phone or email about an appointment. Contact  

What to Expect

In conclusion, expect that sessions last for 55 minutes.  During the first appointment I would manage the session so that you know what to expect. If you want to know more I can explain how I work.  Then you could see how you feel about continuing with the counselling experience. Consider when is a good time for you to have your sessions and what time of day is best for you.