This service specialises in issues of bereavement and loss.
However it is for you, you don’t have to cope on your own.
Is your partner fed-up with you crying or being low? Are you not able to sleep? Getting more depressed? Feeling angry? Is there guilt around? Taking to drink? The pain of missing the person you loved who has died is so much you wonder if it will ever go away. You don’t want to forget them. You don’t know what life holds for you now? These are just some of the reactions that could be around for you. You might turn to a counsellor trained to work with bereavement and loss and ask for help.
Trained and Experienced Cruse Bereavement Counsellor
If you’ve been grieving the death of a loved one intensely for over three months and living feels seriously impaired – it could be time to speak to a trained professional grief counsellor. You are likely to learn about grief and your grieving process through our conversations together. You may want to make some changes to how you cope with life. I will not tell you what to do. I will trust your inherent, creative process to begin to make some changes for you. As for all my clients, you decide when you’re ready to stop coming along to sessions. Nearly all work is confidential (excepting legal reasons for disclosure).
Each person takes their own amount of time to heal and adjust to the loss of a loved one. It is said that the closer the relationship was, the harder the recovery.
I have valuable experience of working with bereaved clients and clients who are suffering from anticipatory grief.
This grieving occurs when we know that the person is going to die. They may be an alcoholic whose body is shutting down after years of abuse. Perhaps the person is suffering from a terminal illness or a dementia that is eroding their personality. Grieving can start long before they are actually gone. It can be a way of preparing for the death. You may find talking with somebody or a support group helpful. It is likely that feeling of frustration will surface. So needing to express these is understandable. A temptation can be to put your own life ‘on hold’ while you try to do much for your friend or family member.
Counselling for Loss
There are also other losses in life that may cause you to feel grief. Your beloved pet may have died and you may be on your own. Your partner may have left and you could be feeling their loss and the loss of your future with them. You may have miscarried – you may have lost your health in some way. You may have lost your job or be coming up to retirement and be losing your valuable occupation. The feeling of loss experienced from a house fire or a burglary can be most dis-empowering and take time to recover from. You are likely to still grieve the loss of attachment you felt to your home or articles stolen.
Who am I now?
Along with some of these losses comes a change in identity for some people or a loss of identity. Who am I now? How will I cope? What could have been if…..? Maybe too there is a sense of shame or guilt accompanying the loss. How you feel is very valid and real for you. If it is causing you problems then isn’t it worth getting help?
To discuss whether counselling is appropriate for your loss or situation, please feel free to Contact me.
You can find more information about recovery from grief in the Cruse Bereavement Care website Cruse Bereavement Care Leeds